20 Things I Want To Tell Engaged Women by Joy Forney

1. Marriage is made up of two good forgivers. Because every marriage is made up of two sinners. (Romans 3:23)
2. At some point, you will have to learn that life isn’t all about you. (Philippians 2:3)
3. Don’t listen to women that tell you that passion fades…it doesn’t have to! (um…all of Song of Solomon)
4. Don’t give up. Love never fails. (1 Cor. 13)
5. He wants a kind wife, not a maid or another mother. Be nice. (Galatians 5:22-23)
6. Give your husband the gift of your respect.  He needs it more than you know. (Ephesians 5:33)
7. Be mindful of your expectations.
8. Honor the Lord above all things. Colossians 3: 17
9. Find your worth and security in the Lord, and don’t look to your husband to meet all of your needs.
10. Be very careful about reading romance novels, they set you up for an unrealistic view of romance.
11. Real romance is finding that one spot in the crook of his arm to snuggle into, that shared look over the dinner table when the kids are acting crazy, and the way he fixes the leaky sink when he is dog-tired after work.
12. Love is about relationship.  The more I love my husband, and seek a relationship with him, the less critical and duty-bound I become.  It is similar to my relationship with God.
13. Be thankful for the husband you have. Accept him as he is, not for what you want him to be.
14. Don’t compare!! Don’t buy into the game of comparing him with anyone else’s husband.
15.The Biblically “normal” marriage is filled with joy, connection, laughter, and peace.  It’s not free of hurt feelings and conflict, but they know how to process their pain with one another so that they live more often in a meadow than at the scene of a train wreck.  This is not the average marriage, but it normal – -because it is a visible display of Jesus’ relationship with His bride (Ephesians 5:22-33).
16. Your marriage is a testimony! 
17. Pray for your marriage. Pray hard.
18.I’ve heard that is gets better with age.  I have to say in my short {13 year} experience, that is so true.
19. Where there is God, there is always hope. Even for the most broken marriages. “With God all things are possible.” (Matthew 19:26)
20.Marriage is commitment and sacrifice. But it’s also the best, most wild ride you will ever have with your best friend.
Text by Joy Forney of Grace Full Mama.

14 Responses to 20 Things I Want To Tell Engaged Women by Joy Forney

  1. I’m engaged & getting married by the end of the year.. very inspiring.. thank you for sharing!

  2. hi patty, grabe i so love this, lol while reading with my kumare here at the office, were both married, nakakarelate kami! nice blog always, happy vibes sabi mo nga, keep it up!
    keep safe and God bless

  3. sobrang happy vibes tong post mo na to, nice one miss patty.
    hat’s off to you.
    God bless

  4. An hour ago I just had an emotional conversation with my husband about how our marriage is going and how we want to give each other the best but sometimes just fails to do so. Marriage is indeed hard work but at the end of the day as I lie down next to my husband I always have a feeling of gratefulness and happiness that nothing in this world can live up to. Thank you for this, it reminded me again of why I love my husband despite of his flaws and imperfections. God Bless you.


  5. Hi Patty! I’m Weiya, blogger over at Enjoyer of Grace. http://enjoyerofgrace.blogspot.com

    I found you through WhyyyJen and am so glad I did. Thanks so much for sharing this post… I actually remember reading this from somewhere a long time ago but had forgotten about it. Compared to how most people view marriage now, I love how Christ-centered this is and how this is “normal.” Hope you can stop by sometime too. Look forward to getting to know you better! 🙂 Much grace to you this week!

  6. Hi Patty, I’ve been a silent reader of your blog for quite a while now and I just need to ask permission if I can share this at my blog too. I think that this not only applies to engaged couple but to married ones as well.