Building the Check List

I’ve finally come back down to earth and I’m my normal self again. Well, I’m not entirely “normal” yet. I still can’t seem to get this silly bungisngis smile off my face so I guess I’ll just have to learn to live with it. And I still call Patrick at odd hours just to say “Guess what, duuuuuude!! We’re engaged!!! Gaaaahhhh!!!”. Thankfully, he puts up with all my insane mid-day outbursts and says “That’s great babe, I’m so happy that you’re happy..but can I call you after our meeting? These guys are all staring at me.”. I’ve even come up with song-dance numbers for our wedding.Para makatipid, I figured why not be the bride and wedding singer?!?! Oh diba, all-in-one entertainment package. I tried singing my impromptu songs to Pat and he just said “Tama yan, para kang Bollywood star!” When I sing it’s hard to tell if I’m a 28 year old girl or a 75 year old Indian or a drunk Russian spy..for some odd reason when I vocalize, may lumalabas na weird undecipherable accent!
I’ve been helping friends plan for their weddings, birthday parties, and baby showers for years so I figured I’d be an expert by the time it came to my actual wedding..but truth is, nothing really prepares you for THE DAY. My enthusiastic friends have been asking “So, when’s the big day?” “What’s your theme?” “Who’s your caterer?” and all I could say is “ummm…err…well…kasi..”. I don’t have a date and venue set, and nope, I don’t have a thick binder with magazine cut outs just like all the normal brides-to-be out there. I’m completely USELESS as a bride-to-be!!! Thank God for our awesome support group: 1)BFF/Matron of Honor, Alessa, who’s been on top of every little detail and pouring out all her creative juices 2)my future sis-in-law Cecil who always shares her input and helps me with the major decision making 3)our dear close friends who have all volunteered to do their “wedding duties” and of course, 4)our wonderful parents who have been so hands-on with all the plans (obviously even more excited than us!). Many thanks also to these awesome suppliers who have extended their generous help to us! I can’t wait to blog about all our little happy collaborations 🙂 Wooo-hooo-hooo!!!
Now I understand why most brides, although naturally sweet and calm, could turn into Bridezillas overnight. With a whole list of things to do from caterers, photographers, gowns, flowers, cakes, give-aways, entourage, etc. it’s easy to get overwhelmed. I’m so thankful that Pat is naturally very calm and cool and so I usually take my cues from him. I tend to mirror him most of the time so when he’s cool, I’m cool. Cool-angot! Hahaha 🙂 Sometimes we have to always remind ourselves not to get lost in all the wedding planning and focus more on the honeymoon planning!!!!! YEHESS! Ay naku, mali! I mean..we should focus more on the marriage and family planning. There’s a whole checklist for marriage and I guess at the end of the day, a wedding is just a one day affair while your marriage is FOREVER!!!:) My mom gave each of us a copy of this book yesterday and although I’m not really a fan of self-help and mushy motivational books, this book seems pretty straightforward and baloney-free. It tells you all the things you need to know and all your married friends will probably fail to tell’s honest but sweet. For singles, i highly recommend this book’ll serve as a good template for you to prep for a relationship and for steady couples who have been going out for a while, it’s also a great eye opener. I’ve been reading just a couple of chapters but I’ve been picking up so many lessons already. For one, I’m soooooo IMMATURE! There’s a lot of growing up needed for marriage and we have a LONG way to go. Looks like we’ll be needing all your prayers, folks, and lots and lots of chocolates!!!!! 🙂

4 Responses to Building the Check List

  1. Gary Chapman is love. 🙂

    I got myself the 5 languages of love & after the wedding, I stumbled another book, the marriage you have always wanted. really a good read pat. 🙂

    all the best to the preps, enjoy the highs and the lows and savor it. you will definitely missed the wedding planning thereafter. you & pat are just perfect for each other! cheers!