So I received one comment today with a long paragraph basically schooling me as to how I should run my blog, heavy with criticism and judgments—but ended with a “Please don’t take offense to this”. I didn’t know how to react to it. To be quite honest, I was quite shocked. I’ve experienced cyber bullying many years ago (because of a breakup) but after that died down, I didn’t get any mean emails/comments anymore. So this caught me off guard and yes, it hurt me. I’m not a perfect person and I get into fights with my husband and family like any other girl—but to be mocked by a complete stranger? You could say, I’m not entirely equipped for this. I know having a public persona and an open blog should sort of prepare you for these things, but you know what, I’m still a very average person who’s not as tough as I’d like to be. How could I not take offense? Here’s an “anonymous” person who I personally do not know, purposefully writing to put me down and to make me feel bad about my life. How can one have the audacity to boldly hurt someone and just escape with a “Oh, by the way, no offense ha…”. Do we just shake hands and play in the park after? When faced with things that are beyond my control, I just leave it to God. Because I know it’s THE only way to deal with it. And I just thank God for using YOU—my darling readers. You have no idea how much happiness and joy you bring to me. I’ve changed a LOT in the past few years and the changes have been evident in my blog naturally—and yet, you are STILL there for me and your support remains unwavering and that’s what keeps me going! Just as I was about to feel bad about myself, the emails from kind strangers and loving readers appeared in my inbox and I was reminded that I should be grateful for the love I receive from everyone else rather than focusing on just one cyber bully.
As much as I hate people who hurt me, I feel even worse when people bully my friends and loved ones. I won’t give these bullies a false victory by mentioning the names of my friends who have been hurt—but it just breaks my heart when I see people openly saying harsh and hurtful things about my friends (especially those who are in the spotlight/public eye). Minsan gusto ko talaga silang awayin especially since I know how good and kind my friends are and how undeserving they are of these mean comments. One night, I saw a horrible comment on one of my friend’s IG accounts and I couldn’t sleep! I just wanted to defend her because she is one of the nicest, most wonderful human beings I’ve ever encountered—and yet some person just left something on her IG page which was so far from the truth. But instead I prayed. I know, what a wuss thing to do, but hey, that’s how baduy I am. I prayed for my friend and her family, I prayed for God to deal with this offender in HIS own way, and I prayed for my heart too. More than anything, I hate feeling the injustice of it all. How one person could hide behind the tag “anonymous” and be bold enough to hurt you. How does it begin? Do you switch on your computer, log in to your account and then think to yourself “Hmmm…who should I ruin today? Oh, maybe this random citizen/classmate/officemate/blogger/celebrity/model who I’ve never met. I should make her feel like crap today.” This happens to celebrities and non-celebrities—it is horrible and painful and in the end nobody wins. The person offended feels crappy and the offender feels even crappier. Name calling, judgments, harsh criticisms about a person’s looks, personal life, career, etc—all of this is bullying. Even gossiping about it with your friends is a form of bullying.
You know that I try to keep things very happy-happy-joy-joy in this blog as much as I can. But today, I really had to address this because I know that a lot of people suffer the same fate everyday. Maybe I try to steer clear of the nega vibes because I know that most of you out there come to this site as a breather from your crazy work schedules—so I just try to inject as much happy details as I possibly can to make it worth your while. Whether it’s a new restaurant I was fortunate enough to try, some pretty things I found in the net, encouraging you to go on a vacation, or even just sharing a video that made me smile today, even running contests and working closely with sponsors—all this is for my readers, my little way of giving back to you guys. Not that my blog is all high and mighty, mababaw lang siya pero gusto ko lang na napapasaya ko kayo. I just want to pepper you with happy thoughts and my silly jokes. There are days (and weeks) that are HARDER, DARKER, and MORE STRESSFUL than others—and I like to keep those things private. Not to show you that my life is perfect, believe me—HINDI TALAGA! But because I prefer dealing with the problems without having to burden others. We all have our own issues and it doesn’t help to bring doom and gloom to other people. I am grateful to have a job that allows me to enjoy a few perks here and there—like when I’m having a very tiring work week, it’s a super BIG bonus for me to try a new restaurant! And if I like it, then of course it would be nice to share it with you guys, para din ma-experience niyo na rin 🙂 🙂 The best reward for me is getting your comments/emails saying how much you enjoyed this place too or that you used the tips/recos in my post, etc. Nakakatuwa talaga. Your emails make my heart leap with joy! My approach to this blog is just very simple, share things that made me happy in hopes that it would make someone out there happy too!
This is completely random and I’m sorry if it dampened your spirits a bit, back to regular programming after this 🙂 🙂