Here’s a Random Rambling

So I received one comment today with a long paragraph basically schooling me as to how I should run my blog, heavy with criticism and judgments—but ended with a “Please don’t take offense to this”. I didn’t know how to react to it. To be quite honest, I was quite shocked. I’ve experienced cyber bullying many years ago (because of a breakup) but after that died down, I didn’t get any mean emails/comments anymore. So this caught me off guard and yes, it hurt me. I’m not a perfect person and I get into fights with my husband and family like any other girl—but to be mocked by a complete stranger? You could say, I’m not entirely equipped for this. I know having a public persona and an open blog should sort of prepare you for these things, but you know what, I’m still a very average person who’s not as tough as I’d like to be. How could I not take offense? Here’s an “anonymous” person who I personally do not know, purposefully writing to put me down and to make me feel bad about my life. How can one have the audacity to boldly hurt someone and just escape with a “Oh, by the way, no offense ha…”. Do we just shake hands and play in the park after? When faced with things that are beyond my control, I just leave it to God. Because I know it’s THE only way to deal with it.  And I just thank God for using YOU—my darling readers. You have no idea how much happiness and joy you bring to me. I’ve changed a LOT in the past few years and the changes have been evident in my blog naturally—and yet, you are STILL there for me and your support remains unwavering and that’s what keeps me going! Just as I was about to feel bad about myself, the emails from kind strangers and loving readers appeared in my inbox and I was reminded that I should be grateful for the love I receive from everyone else rather than focusing on just one cyber bully. 


As much as I hate people who hurt me, I feel even worse when people bully my friends and loved ones. I won’t give these bullies a false victory by mentioning the names of my friends who have been hurt—but it just breaks my heart when I see people openly saying harsh and hurtful things about my friends (especially those who are in the spotlight/public eye). Minsan gusto ko talaga silang awayin especially since I know how good and kind my friends are and how undeserving they are of these mean comments. One night, I saw a horrible comment on one of my friend’s IG accounts and I couldn’t sleep! I just wanted to defend her because she is one of the nicest, most wonderful human beings I’ve ever encountered—and yet some person just left something on her IG page which was so far from the truth. But instead I prayed. I know, what a wuss thing to do, but hey, that’s how baduy I am. I prayed for my friend and her family, I prayed for God to deal with this offender in HIS own way, and I prayed for my heart too. More than anything, I hate feeling the injustice of it all. How one person could hide behind the tag “anonymous” and be bold enough to hurt you. How does it begin? Do you switch on your computer, log in to your account and then think to yourself “Hmmm…who should I ruin today? Oh, maybe this random citizen/classmate/officemate/blogger/celebrity/model who I’ve never met. I should make her feel like crap today.”  This happens to celebrities and non-celebrities—it is horrible and painful and in the end nobody wins. The person offended feels crappy and the offender feels even crappier. Name calling, judgments, harsh criticisms about a person’s looks, personal life, career, etc—all of this is bullying. Even gossiping about it with your friends is a form of bullying. 

You know that I try to keep things very happy-happy-joy-joy in this blog as much as I can. But today, I really had to address this because I know that a lot of people suffer the same fate everyday. Maybe  I try to steer clear of the nega vibes because I know that most of you out there come to this site as a breather from your crazy work schedules—so I just try to inject as much happy details as I possibly can to make it worth your while. Whether it’s a new restaurant I was fortunate enough to try, some pretty things I found in the net, encouraging you to go on a vacation, or even just sharing a video that made me smile today, even running contests and working closely with sponsors—all this is for my readers, my little way of giving back to you guys. Not that my blog is all high and mighty, mababaw lang siya pero gusto ko lang na napapasaya ko kayo. I just want to pepper you with happy thoughts and my silly jokes. There are days (and weeks) that are HARDER, DARKER, and MORE STRESSFUL than others—and I like to keep those things private. Not to show you that my life is perfect, believe me—HINDI TALAGA! But because I prefer dealing with the problems without having to burden others. We all have our own issues and it doesn’t help to bring doom and gloom to other people. I am grateful to have a job that allows me to enjoy a few perks here and there—like when I’m having a very tiring work week, it’s a super BIG bonus for me to try a new restaurant! And if I like it, then of course it would be nice to share it with you guys, para din ma-experience niyo na rin πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ The best reward for me is getting your comments/emails saying how much you enjoyed this place too or that you used the tips/recos in my post, etc. Nakakatuwa talaga. Your emails make my heart leap with joy! My approach to this blog is just very simple, share things that made me happy in hopes that it would make someone out there happy too!

This is completely random and I’m sorry if it dampened your spirits a bit, back to regular programming after this πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚



39 Responses to Here’s a Random Rambling

  1. Hi, Patty. Be encouraged that your work is well appreciated by your audience. We are grateful that you are generous in sharing a piece of your life with everyone. Don’t waste your energy on weeds.
    Thanks for being real. You’re awesome.

  2. Hi Patty,
    It is so easy nowadays to make a comment on any blog and other social media outlets that allow comments to be left. If you read any of the major news headlines online and read the comments, it is ridiculous and rude what some people say. Majority of these people would not have the guts to say the mean words directly to the person they are critiquing. Also, it is easy to type hurtful words behind the computer.

    I once read somewhere when someone often gives criticism or negativity towards others (when those people don’t deserve it), often means they are either jealous of that person or insecure about themselves. I would think the main reasons why a person would often visit the same blog is they find that the writer is inspirational, provides practical information that they could apply to their own lives, etc. If someone doesn’t like how the blog is set up or what is being talked about, why continue visiting and criticizing the blog especially if the writer is not saying anything bad? Different story if they are criticizing specific people, country, etc. I guess they are people out there who like to spend their time wanting to hurt people with their words for whatever reason. Life is too short! We need to focus on positive things especially with all the stress life and work can bring.

    With you having over 25,000 Twitter and a little over 32,000 Instagram followers at this time, it is an indication there are many people out there that are interested in what you write and document in photographs. Please continue doing whatever you would like to share in your blog, After all, it is your blog and we are just the readers.

    Jan

  3. Hi Patty, I’ve been reading your blog for a couple of years now and I’m also following you on IG. I really look forward to your posts on both. It’s also my first time to comment. All I can say is, if people don’t like the way or what a person blogs or posts pictures on IG, they have the choice to unfollow or not read the blog. To each his own. Sure there might be instances when people need to correct a blogger like when they deliberately offend or demean people. I personally wouldn’t follow that person. But that’s not the case with you, I haven’t read anything that is offensive or demeaning in your blog. In fact it’s the opposite, your posts are really fun and quirky & encouraging, like how you must be in person. So keep on spreading the happiness! Enjoy your day! πŸ™‚

  4. Hi Ms Patty,
    Being a regular reader, your quips do generate a lot of LOLs. Haha.
    As a nonregular blogger, I happen to have one commenter ending his/her piece with a profanity. Not because of my article, but because of another comment. I hastily deleted the comment with foul words. I do not know what it is with people, but we do live in a fallen world. Hurtful words fill up the cyberspace.

    Thank you for this. It reminds everyone to turn to God whenever ugly words are thrown around haphazardly.

    “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.”

  5. Hi Patty,

    Whew. Although I don’t know you personally but I know that you are a happy person. Don’t let this negative comment stop you from inspring your readers. Cheers to good vibes, indeed. By the way, I so so love your fashion style. πŸ™‚

  6. I’ve been a reader of your blog for more than four years now (and still counting), and I haven’t read anything “wrong” in your entries. To be honest, you’re the reason why I also blog. And for that, I really thank you for the inspiration! πŸ™‚

    To the “anonymous” cyber bully who commented, no offense too – but we, Patty’s loyal readers, like Patty’s blog just that way it is and we wouldn’t have it any other way.

    So stay strong and continue spreading “Happy Vibes, Happy Lives!” through your blog, Idol Patty! πŸ™‚

    Mika

  7. Patty, I read your blog because it’s refreshing, light-hearted and fun. πŸ™‚ That person was probably just jealous or insecure. He/she can start his/her own blog then! In the meantime, we’re quite happy with the way you run yours. If you had to change it to suit everyone, then it wouldn’t be pattylaurel.com anymore, right? Have a blessed day πŸ™‚

  8. Awww. May God deal with him/her! Don’t let it dampen your happy vibes mood in your blog <3 I love reading your blog (and your tweets, and your photos on IG haha!) I’m one of your loyal fans ever sinnnceeeee. πŸ˜€ Continue to inspire young women (like me!) May God shower more blessings to you!

  9. Hi, Patty! Your blog is a blessing. I always look forward to your posts for years now. Let’s continue on choosing love in everything. God bless you!!! πŸ™‚

  10. Word!

    I had one too earlier this year. She must have felt that starting with “pardon” would ease the “but” that comes after. What’s silly about it is she based her judgment on the first sentence of my post. And to add insult to the injury…she ended with “JUST SAYING”. :/ WHY PEOPLE WHY

    Anyway, stay wonderful, Patty! Your posts do add a bit of brightness to our days πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

  11. Hi Ms. Patty…I’m a new follower of your blog and i also follow you at IG…I just want to share with you this verse from my daily devotion. Romans 12:17, “Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable.” Keep up the good work Ms. Patty and God bless you!

  12. Wooooowww!!! I had a very long work day so reading all this before bedtime made me super happy! thanks for being so encouraging guys! I appreciate it πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ SALAMAT!

  13. Hello! I always read your blog because I love how you bond and share happy moments with your family and friends – nakakainspire to live life to the fullest with my loved ones πŸ™‚ I am one of the many people who find your blog very helpful and inspiring in a lot of aspects! Thank you for sharing funny and meaningful stories here! πŸ™‚ Always remember that you make your readers smile and laugh, which is why I believe that the Lord will bless you with a peaceful mind despite this incident πŸ™‚

  14. People who say mean things to strangers are the worst kind. I always believe that they have certain unresolved issues within themselves that cause them to be like that. Kawasaki actually sila. It must be hard to be them πŸ™‚

    I’ve been following your blog for a while now and your “happy” corner makes me smile. Thank you for taking the time to share πŸ™‚

    I saw you one time in BGC during the stations of the Cross. You seem very friendly and approachable. πŸ™‚

    Hope your “long day” ends well πŸ™‚ we all have shitty days (can I say that in your blog? ) but tomorrow is another day to be have an amazing day πŸ™‚

    Good night.

  15. Hi Patty,

    I like the way you responded to the situation. We can’t do anything but pray for that person’s conversion of heart. Like Jesus said, turn your other cheek na lang. You are an inspiration to me and thank you for the positivity you bring in your blog. You inspired me to blog too and share the wonders God has worked in my life! God bless you! (Atlanta, GA)

  16. Hey Patty,

    I’ve been a reader of yours from pattylaurel.blogspot.com to dapattylaurel to pattylaurel.com and I want you to know that your posts instantly brighten up my day. It’s like hanging out with a friend na “madaling dalhin”– alam mo yon? Light and easy, walang hassle, walang issues. You instantly shift my mood from mataray/moody to happy-happy joy-joy because, well, you simply show me how easy it is to just smile, be grateful and be happy. One of my favorite posts of yours is when you wrote about Van Gogh and it touched me so much. I remember going back to the post to keep re-reading it. Please know that your words have gotten me through tough times because your joy is so infectious. I love your blog and I love you!

    I leave you a quote from Pareng Vincent Van Gogh that I hope you take to heart,

    “When we are working at a difficult task and strive after a good thing, we are fighting a righteous battle, the direct reward of which is that we are kept from much evil. As we advance in life it becomes more and more difficult, but in fighting the difficulties the inmost strength of the heart is developed.”

    Sending you light and love,
    K

  17. Hello Patty!,

    Don’t worry about that random person (someone obviously did not take their ‘happy pills’ in the morning lol!). Life’s too short to waste time on someone who put people down! x

  18. Ate Patty,

    I couldn’t help myself but leave a comment. YOU ARE LOVED. Admittedly, we haven’t met each other yet but I really ADMIRE your genuineness as a person. Please stay cheerful! Everytime ma sad ko kay mubasa ra dayon ko sa imong mga posts tapos magkatawaha ra dayon ko. That’s how vibrant your aura is. πŸ™‚

    I love you always, Ate Patty. (And I’m very sure na palangga pud ka sa akong mga friends kay sige nako ishare imong blog site! Hehe!)

    More power! πŸ™‚

    Sincerely,
    Your avid fan since 2011 :’)

  19. Hi Patty!

    I’ve been a fan of you since your Ateneo Courtside Reporter days. You’re someone I look up to and your blog entries are somewhat of an inspiration to me. From the your choice of wardrobe, travel diaries and most importantly life lessons.

    I had the courage to approach you when you were in LTO one time getting your Driver’s License and we were in line at the same time. You were so friendly and funny πŸ™‚

    Thanks for being such a good role model and continue inspiring people! πŸ™‚

  20. Hi Ms. Patty!

    I like the way you handled this kind of situation, turning to God whenever somebody throws hurtful words to you is the best thing to do. I know it’s not that easy to just ignore this but after you pray and fell asleep, tomorrow, you’ll feel better. πŸ™‚ Oh, by the way, I am one of the new readers of your blogs and I feel giddy and happy everytime I drop by to read new posts. I also followed you and Mr. Patrick on IG, I love his works, I am fan of him, let him know please? πŸ™‚ Fyi also, your jokes and side comments are mabenta! =D

    zerrah

  21. I enjoy reading your blog, and you strike me as a kind person who only wishes others well. Keep it up.

  22. Hi Patty,

    I guess its easier for people to criticize the work of other people. I get a lot of criticism as well for not having the perfect writing technique to poor pictures and worst articles. I envy this type of people actually because the life they choose is a life full of maybe hatred hahaha and dont worry I read your blog because it inspires me at some point. So, screw those who criticize.

  23. Hi Ms Patty. I follow you on IG and constantly reads your blog hindi nga lang ako ngcomment. I really feel happy whenever I read your blog and your posts sa IG. Pampa- good vibes talaga. Keep up the good work. Minsan talaga we cannot please everybody but just continue what you are doing. Obviously, the person who sent you that message/email is not your audience. Thank you for being an inspiration. BTW, since syo natutunan ito, you are one of my peg. Stay happy. God bless you πŸ™‚

  24. Hi Patty,

    Anong probema sa blog mo? Wala naman. Sya ang may problema sa blog mo, edi huwag na lang niya basahin. Kita mo nga o, ang dami namin nag-eenjoy sa mga sinusulat mo! Keep it up!

  25. Hi Ms.Patty! πŸ™‚ I’m a faithful reader of your blog simply bcoz your entries r so genuine and joyful. I have not met you in person but I know you are one of the nicest pipz one will ever meet. I started reading your blog last year and has read all your entries at paulit paulit ko pang binabasa πŸ™‚ I pity the person who recently bullied you, I think that person does not have Jesus yet in his/her life. Cheer up Ms.Patty and just pray for that person.:) You are truly beautiful inside-out.Keep blogging and stay blessed.:) *Hugs and Kisse* from your avid fan:)

  26. I’m sure you’re a cheerful person, Patty as it exudes in your writing. Keep writing as your cheerfulness is truly infectious πŸ™‚ Just want to share this verse: A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit dries up the bones (Proverbs 17:22).

  27. Hi Patty!

    You are God’s gift to all of us. Thank you for cheering us up with your posts. It is so rare to find someone as beautiful and kind-hearted as you. I’m very sure that you are bigger than anyone who will try to put you down.

  28. Praying with you Ms. Patty! And I’ll say it again, your blog is a source of joy and inspiration to me, and surely, to many! Keep the positivity!

  29. Hi Patty,

    You’ve been my girl crush for the longest time. Haha! But what I really wanted to say is that you are doing a really great job on this blog. We, your readers know that you are not living a perfect life. The reason I read your blog is because you are living a BLESSED life, and I would like to emulate that. Remember, that is just one person compared to all of us who thinks you are an amazing person for continuing to share your life’s joy through this blog. Don’t let them dampen your spirit. Smile Patty!

  30. Hi patty! Love your style, love your posts and tips, your quirkiness. And i love that youre not ashamed to call yourself a Christian! I so look forward to reading your fun posts! You are an inspiration and an encouragement. πŸ™‚ I, too write in my own blog, and ikaw talaga peg ko (i sound like a fangirl. Hahaha) be encouraged in the Lord, i know He has great and amazing things in store for you! Keep it up! Love love. πŸ™‚

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